More Ease in The Moment

How to Deal with Each Moment More Easily

In today's video, I start with a poem by Juliet Fay who is my friend, colleague, and co-host of our new podcast Riffing on Realness. Juliet gives us some powerful advice on how to move through life with more ease and flow. We are living in a time of high stress and we have choices about how to approach these times. This is what I explore in these 4 minutes. If you want to take a deeper dive, then listen to our latest Riffing on Realness episode where we talk about how to deal with existential dread. I believe you will find it helpful! I invite you to subscribe to our podcast. We would be delighted to have you along for the ride.

More Ease in The Moment: Dropping Self-Judgment

In today's video, I talk about how to have more ease in the moment by dropping your judgmental voices about yourself. When we get caught up in our painful stories about ourselves, we clutter our minds unnecessarily. Thoughts scream. Wisdom whispers. When we are caught up in our screaming thoughts about ourselves, we have far less flow in our lives, we have far less ease. If we can wake up to our thoughts of self-criticism and leave those thoughts alone, they will move through us more quickly. Take a listen and see how it is for yourself.

I also want to let you know that I'm finally back on Instagram and you can find me at CarlaRoyalCoach. I look forward to connecting with you!

RIFFING ON REALNESS

Please check out my new podcast called Riffing on Realness. I would love for you to subscribe. My co-host, Juliet Fay, and I are having a wonderful time talking about how to be real in a culture that is rampant with superficiality. I do believe you will enjoy and find some real gems that can help you experience more ease and flow.

You can find the podcast here on my site or on the major podcast platforms. Here’s a link to our podcast on Apple.

Curiosity and Openness vs Perfectionism and Judgmentalism

In this week’s blog post, I offer you a video and my new Podcast, Riffing on Realness, where I go into ideas of judgmentalism and perfectionism vs curiosity and openness.

Openness & Curiosity vs Dogma & Divisiveness

In this video, I get real and expose to you the anger and judgmentalism I woke up feeling one morning. I talk about how easy it is to collapse there and I give some tips on rising out of that and approaching life from a different perspective.

Riffing on Realness is Live!

I’m thrilled to announce that my podcast, Riffing on Realness with cohost Juliet Fay, has gone live.

If you are wrestling with how to be real in the midst of rampant superficiality and it’s causing you to overthink, be too guarded, and not live your potential, then you are in the right place.

In this podcast, Juliet and I explore how, dropping the masks, being real and vulnerable, can help you connect, adapt, and find a richness of experience amid the chaos.

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I would love to hear how these ideas land with you in the comment box below.

Activate Your Imagination for More Ease & Peace

In this week’s blog post, I offer you two videos where I encourage you to live more often from your imagination, how this actually works with brain science, and how it will make a difference in your life. As always, don’t take my word for the ideas I present here, play with them for yourself.

Live From Imagination Rather than Indoctrination

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Are you living from indoctrination or imagination? If you want more flow, ease, and enjoyment, learn to activate and live from your imagination. We’ve all been indoctrinated by families, cultures, and religions but we can become aware of that and live from a freer place that gives us more creativity, more juice, more enjoyment, and more authenticity. Take a listen!

How to Find More Compassion Through Imagination

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In today's video, I continue our discussion about the dangers and value of living from our imaginations. Imagination can lead to compassion as we put ourselves in others' shoes. Dogma separates us. Imagination can connect us. Life is a beautiful, rich, and nuanced gray. Imagination can open our hearts and our creativity.

How to Find More Ease & Flow

In this week’s blog post, I offer you two videos where I dive into helping you find more ease and flow and less suffering. Yes, it’s possible no matter what is going on in your life right now. Don’t take my word for it, experiment for yourself with the ideas I offer here.

How to Reduce Suffering

In this video, I talk about how you can reduce your suffering and live with more ease and flow. It's important that we interrupt our habits of thought that are stressful. I talk about one way to do that here.

How to Experience More Flow & Ease

In this video, I talk about how can experience less suffering and more ease. We tend to suffer so much because we are caught up in habits of thoughts or stories and narratives that we've created in order to help us manage day to day circumstances. Neuroscience shows us that we don't experience reality directly, rather, we experience what we think about reality. So it's vital to be aware of our stories and make certain that we don't over identify with our stories, thoughts, and feelings.

Keep Training Your Brain for Relief

In this week’s videos, I continue the exploration into brain science and how to work with your brain to achieve more flow, ease, and wellbeing

What to Do When Feeling Overcome by Emotions

In today's video, we continue our discussion about the brain and how to optimize it to work for us rather than against us. You may be surprised to learn what's really needed when you are feeling bad. Experiment with the idea I present in this video. I and many of my clients have found it life-changing.

Brain Hacks to Help You Feel Better

In this video, I continue our discussion about optimizing the brain to work for you rather than against you. These are some very practical tips that will help you shift out of craving, gloom, anxiety, and other "bad" feelings. Learn how to balance your brain activity and reset it to normal so that you can feel better.

Train Your Brain

This week, I offer you 2 videos that discuss how the brain works and how to help it help you. Your brain is powerful and brilliant but sometimes, in its attempt to keep you safe, it is misguided. You can override this when you need to. I offer a couple of tips about how this works.

Focus on an Outcome, Not on the Problem

In today's video, I talk a bit about brain science. If we can understand how the brain works, we can support it to work for us instead of against us. There are three parts to our brain: the cerebrum, cerebellum, and the brain stem. The brain stem (also known as the reptilian brain) can sometimes wreak a bit of havoc on us when it gets triggered because it is desperate to keep us safe. It can feel threatened even when there is no real threat. So, we have to bring our cerebrum online to override our trigger happy brain stem. I talk about one way to do this.

Train Your Brain to See the Good

Today's video is a follow-up to the last. We go a bit deeper into how your brain works and how to override some of its limitations. The brain's primary functions are to keep you safe and to conserve energy. Overall, it does a great job but sometimes it works against what's best for us and we have to intentionally override it. The good news is that we can!

How to Help People in Need

This week, I offer you two videos that talk about how to help others in need. You may hear a bit of a different perspective here that I believe will support you in helping others more easily and effectively. Take a listen, and do download the PDF that I provide with the tips I offer.

How to Save Someone’s Life

In this video, I share a passage from a book entitled Welcome to the Circle by Jake Orlowitz. This passage is all about how to save a life when the only life you can save is your own. This is exceedingly important and I talk a bit about my own experience of breaking down over 20 years ago and what was needed. Caring for others can be exhausting and overwhelming but there is a way that it can be less burdensome when you understand what Jake and I are sharing here.

How to Help Someone in Need

In my last video, I talked about the importance of saving your life first if you want to help others. In today's video, I offer some practical DOs and DON'Ts that can support you in helping others. I've also created a downloadable page for you with these tips. Download your free PDF below that goes with this video containing all the tips I mention.

I would absolutely love to hear from you in the comments below. How do these messages land for you? What makes sense and what doesn’t?

What NOT to Do if You Want to Be Successful

This week, I offer you two videos and transcripts that will help you stop doing some things that interfere in your success. If you want more success, stop doing these things.

Don’t Wait for Perfection & Courage

In this video, I talk about taking off the blinders of perfection so that we don't miss the opportunities around us. How often do we wait for perfection, courage, or confidence before we take action? How much do we miss out on because of those blinders? In this video, I invite you to move forward whether or not you have full clarity, confidence, courage, or perfection.

Don’t Aim at Success

Yes, I know this could seem a tad oxymoronic, after all, we've been taught to absolutely aim for success. There's a saying, if you don't aim for anything, you'll achieve nothing. I tend to agree, however, in aiming for success and even happiness, we may be aiming for the wrong thing. In this video, I talk about what we could aim for instead of success and how that may get us closer to where we want to go. Take a listen!

How to Calm Mental Chatter and Lower Stress

This week, I offer you two videos, 1 transcript, and a 14-page eBook to help you calm your mental chatter and lower your stress. Take your time with the eBook and look for ways to incorporate a few of the tips into your daily life. I believe you will find them helpful.

Overcoming Mental Chatter and Stress

It is a difficult and exciting time to be alive. The world is in great need and it is important that each of us step up and give our very best gifts. That's extremely difficult to do when we are caught up in so much mental chatter and overwhelm. In this video, I offer some very simple and practical ways to calm the mental chatter and lower your stress levels. Be sure to download the eBook containing all the tips and more.

How Living in the Moment Can Help Lower Stress

In this video, I go more deeply into one of the tips I gave you in the last video. This tip was new for many of my viewers and they wanted more. So, I explain how living in the moment can actually help you access your inherent wisdom and resilience, bringing you back to clarity and finding your way forward from there. It's all about waking up to where your attention is. You can find the link to the eBook I mention in the link above.

Help During Difficult Situations

This week, I offer you three videos + transcripts to help you deal with the difficulties we find ourselves in these days. I doubt there is any going back to normal, rather, we are being called to move forward. Who do you want to be in this chaotic, exciting time of transition and change?

How to Prepare for a Difficult Situation

Today, I awoke thinking of all that's going on in our world right now. The collective stress is palpable and I've heard from some of you that your individual stress is overwhelming at times.

In today's video, I offer a simple yet powerful tool to help you prepare to face a difficult situation. Don't let the simple nature of this practice fool you. Play with it and see how it can bring you more clarity and flow. I have placed the link to the document I mention in the video in the first comment below. I hope you find this helpful!

How to Stay Sane in Difficult Times

I awoke this morning feeling the collective stress. As lay in bed, I realized that I must be intentional about taking extra special care of myself if I'm to be able to navigate these difficult times. In this video, I give you several tips that can help you bring more ease and flow into your day. I hope you'll give them a try!

Stop Collapsing In Difficult Times

In this video, I share a bit of my struggle navigating the new normal in which we find ourselves as we live through a pandemic and social justice movement. Change is not linear. It's always messy. We've got to find ways to ground ourselves so that we can give our best gifts to a world in great need. I offer a glimpse into my own struggles as well as some tips that I hope you will find helpful.

Pay Attention to Your Attention

Want to Enjoy Life More? Here’s How

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In this video, I share a compelling quote from a Mary Oliver poem and I talk about how you can find more enjoyment in each day regardless of what's going on out there in this chaotic world. The tip I share here will help you to show up more powerfully for yourself and this world that is in great need. If you practice this, you will feel more alive and awake.

Where is Your Attention & Why it Matters

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In today's video, I want to talk to you about where you place your attention. Attention creates the pathway and action follows, so it's vitally important that you learn to see where you are placing your attention. As you focus your attention intentionally in the right direction, you will find more peace and clarity in your life regardless of what's going on out there.