Episode Summary

Being pleasing is something almost all of us face and society doesn’t exactly help us be true to ourselves in the face of others' expectations when trying to honor our own truths. It’s often hard to have uncomfortable conversations and feel like it’s ok to own what we need. As humans, we inherently want to be accepted and it’s so tempting to be pleasing vs risking the wrath of others. In this week's riff, we unpack the perils of pleasing and what we can do instead.

Wisdom nuggets to keep your ears open for:

Why it's easier to people please
The difference between ‘niceness’ and ‘kindness’
How it can feel like it’s easier to be pleasing vs living as our most authentic self
Why it's often a case of ‘alignment’…or rather ‘misalignment’
The importance of having a lot of compassion for self
What we are afraid of that leads us to the people-pleasing in the first place
How biology wires for pleasing
The things in our current day world that make us more susceptible to pleasing
How social media plays a role
What we need to be aware of to avoid unhealthy amounts of pleasing
What skills help us overcome it
The learning we need in order to move past pleasing and into healthier interactions
Who we have to be in order to not people please
The startling truth that others don’t really like it when we people please
Learning not to ‘over’-explain. How to make it clean and clear
Understanding It’s not about being nice….(hint: we tell you what it IS about)
What it means to be an authentic human being…(spoiler alert: it's not pleasing)
The superpower we already possess that is kryptonite to pleasing