Episode Summary

Welcome to a continuation of last week’s episode where we take difficult conversations further by exploring the difference between ‘Agreements’ and ‘Expectations’. We dive into how they impact relationships, communication, and our experience within the world around us. They are often the source of difficult conversations and a clear understanding of their nature. Notice how they allow us to navigate talks with more clarity and create stronger outcomes.

Highlights from this episode include:

The difference between agreements and expectations
How one makes us feel over the other
Taking the ‘personal’ out of it
Clean objective ‘hygiene’
Avoiding setting people up for disappointment
How this partners with compromise vs collaboration
Why co-creation is in order
How to know when an expectation is being placed on you
How we are wired for fear
Flipping the fear
Defining the fear…and ‘fear setting’ vs goal setting
Tim Ferriss ‘Defining Your Fears’ Ted Talk (recommended listening)
Bypassing the emotions instead of acknowledging them and how it steals our freedom
The value of sharing our disappointments
Giving voice to inner conversations
Open dialogue leading to deeper connections
How the culture can split our hearts from our mind
The perils of compromising our truth for the good opinions of others