In this episode, Juliet and I explore what it is to celebrate and how we can bring more celebration into our lives. It may seem there's not much to celebrate with all that is going on in the world. When we find ourselves overly serious, celebration can be a way to mitigate that.
Here’s what we explored:
often we celebrate the big events but not our successes along the way
are we rushing on to the next thing, without taking time to celebrate?
when we complete something, celebrating can replenish us
the brain's negativity bias can keep us from enjoying the good, the true, and the beautiful
can we intentionally look for the good, the true, and the beautiful?
it can feel a bit threatening to the primitive brain that wants to stay in hyper-vigilant mode
when we feel good it can induce a bit of panic, fearing the other shoe is going to drop
well, the other shoe is going to drop!
if we worry less, we are more resourced to deal with it when it happens
to be relaxed is to drop your guard - over-ride the primitive urge
celebrating is a way to intentionally over-ride that
we feel a little more inspiration, a surge of energy, a little more motivation
the sound and feel of celebration is just such a lovely invitation
'all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy'
if we wait for the world to give us something to celebrate and stay in vigilance, we will only see what's wrong
what we bring to life, we get: bring celebration to life and we find things to celebrate
does reward have to be based on productivity, output, speed, and numbers?
what if we celebrated waking up, the fact the sun rose, we have clean air?
celebration is connected to wonder
when you wonder at the miracle of Life, it releases so much fun, gratitude, and joy
we can become burdened by the responsibility of taking care of others in business or our family and lose our ability to enjoy our lives
we've made a false correlation between 'hard work' and output
we falsely believe that if we're not working hard, there must be something wrong
when we believe that seriousness and stress are necessary for productivity, we live in the feeling of seriousness and stress
when we look to enjoy what we do, we'll get that feeling of enjoyment
sounds too simple but try it for yourselves
we learn best from play
often our initial success is done without too much thinking
celebration can restore that playfulness
when we don't think there's anything on it we are more responsive
when our state of mind goes down in the basement, everything looks difficult and very compelling
in that state of mind, our view gets constricted and we get exactly that experience of things being difficult
when we are light-hearted, our mind is open and we get in the flow and things feel easy and fun
we experience that putting this podcast together
fascinating to see how our business can thrive without the experience of stress and struggle
interruptions for example can become a big problem if we get really serious about them
if we don't take interruptions so seriously we can surf the wave of interruptions and be flexible, even find unexpected treasure in interruptions
a shift in perspective can be so helpful
it's interesting to look closely at what we are telling ourselves about productivity
are we missing the heart of things, the possibility of connection and joy in every interaction
our opinions get us into trouble
what is before our opinions?
when we get less fascinated with our opinions, we get to smell the roses more and enjoy life more
connected conversations are so nourishing
when we are not feeling connected with ourselves and Life, celebration can be a way of connecting with divine spirit
Carla and Juliet are in the business of connection
when we are constricted, we feel more separate and so the primitive brain responses get louder
when we are in connected conversation, we psychologically relax and we get access to more wisdom
we can notice this with pets: we don't have so much thinking, so we get to enjoy them
if we look before thought and feeling, we can find more space
the sky is like our essence, it is always there, storm clouds, like thoughts and feelings, come and go
when we measure how we're doing by how we feel, we are missing the ever-present sky
there's less to do when we realise thoughts and feelings are just passing through. No need to comment on them, rearrange them or figure out where they came from.
as humans, we have all kinds of thoughts and feelings all day long
we can bring celebration to life. Try it!
Quotes and References
Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl
Long Strange Trip - a documentary about Jerry Garcia and The Grateful Dead
In Quest of the Pearl by Sydney Banks
Rocket Man 2019 film about Elton John's early years
Pinky Piglet the blind, deaf dog on Facebook
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