Episode Summary

Being pleasing is something almost all of us face and society doesn’t exactly help us be true to ourselves in the face of others' expectations when trying to honor our own truths. It’s often hard to have uncomfortable conversations and feel like it’s ok to own what we need.  As humans, we inherently want to be accepted and it’s so tempting to be pleasing vs risking the wrath of others.  In this week's riff, we unpack the perils of pleasing and what we can do instead.

Wisdom nuggets to keep your ears open for:

• Why it's easier to people please

• The difference between ‘niceness’ and ‘kindness’

• How it can feel like it’s easier to be pleasing vs living as our most authentic self

• Why it's often a case of ‘alignment’…or rather ‘misalignment’

• The importance of having a lot of compassion for self

• What we are afraid of that leads us to the people-pleasing in the first place

• How biology wires for pleasing

• The things in our current day world that make us more susceptible to pleasing

• How social media plays a role

• What we need to be aware of to avoid unhealthy amounts of pleasing

• What skills help us overcome it

• The learning we need in order to move past pleasing and into healthier interactions

• Who we have to be in order to not people please

• The startling truth that others don’t really like it when we people please

• Learning not to ‘over’-explain. How to make it clean and clear

• Understanding It’s not about being nice….(hint: we tell you what it IS about)

• What it means to be an authentic human being…(spoiler alert: it's not pleasing)

• The superpower we already possess that is kryptonite to pleasing