Episode Summary

You are the sum of the people you spend the most time with. They are often a reflection of who you are and how big you get to live. Join us in conversation as we recount how people have changed our lives over time and what we have learned in different seasons of life and what roles our tribes play.

Highlights in the episode:

• Why arguing the opposing point of view is so valuable

• Seeking to understand before being understood

• The value of perspectives outside our own

• Measuring and managing the emotional response

• Being aware of our own triggers

• How high self-awareness can be a weakness and a strength

• How ignoring our true feeling leads to anger

• What happens when we avoid difficult conversations

• Why staying in the present moment helps keep things grounded and productive

• Prepare for the conventions….but don’t over-prepare

• Don’t re-live the conversation.  Live it once.

• How growth happens ‘outside’ the moment

• The difference between ‘re-living’ a conversation and ‘reflecting’ on it

• Watching out for the judgments and shame spiraling

• The difference between trying to prepare for and influence

• Exploring our fear of being misunderstood

• Understanding that we all live in separate realities

• Agreements vs Expectations