Becoming

3 Steps to Get Out of Your Own Way

August 31, 2011

“If we can just quiet down all the oughts and shoulds in ourselves, if we can be finished with that whole protestant ethic trip we’ve been on, we will see that we are really already further out than we give ourselves credit for being.  We keep thinking we have to get behind ourselves and push, [...]

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The Art of Acceptance

December 27, 2010

“Ultimately, happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.”  Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche My partner and I took off a few days before Christmas for vacation.  I got sick on the very first day.  I was sick over Christmas, and I’m [...]

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Conditioned Identity

September 15, 2010

Since being back in the south, near familiar culture, family, and old friends, I feel the pull of living my life in a certain way; it’s a pull I feel more strongly than I’ve felt in years.  I suppose it’s good that I didn’t come back sooner because I’ve needed a deep enough, grounded enough, [...]

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This Present Moment

September 3, 2010

Two o’clock in the morning.  Up doing yoga in an attempt to open up my screaming lower back and hips.  What is it about being at Daddy’s that makes sleep so elusive?  Can the new bed really be this uncomfortable?  Is it how hot he keeps the house?  Is it that I am hypervigilant—listening out [...]

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Liberated from Drama

August 25, 2010

“To see your drama clearly is to be liberated from it.” Ken Keyes Jr. When I look back on the drama in my life, it looks different from when I was consumed by it.  I can see how I contributed to most of it, at least since I’ve been an adult.  As a child, I [...]

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Some Days are Diamonds

August 16, 2010

My dad was on the phone with my sweet niece.  She must have asked how he was doing.  I heard him reply, “Some days are diamonds and some days are stone.” At 11:30 that same night, I had to take Daddy to the ER.  As we waited for the doctor, I asked Daddy about that [...]

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It’s Just a Story

August 9, 2010

“Carla, what I want to say to you is that everything before this moment is just a story.  It’s just a story,” my friend responded.  I had been telling her that I feel guilt at odd times about odd things.  I might feel guilty that Karen is left with the farm chores when I go [...]

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Attachement + Control = Suffering

July 16, 2010

I could’ve kept sleeping this morning.  I’m so tired.  My body aches.  It was difficult going to sleep…again.  I don’t know how to ascend this weariness.  Sometimes I get frightened about being tired.  I get frightened because I have had issues of chronic pain for years, though I am much better.  Sleep is a fundamental [...]

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Needless Suffering

May 5, 2010

“Ultimately, Happiness comes down to choosing between the discomfort of becoming aware of your mental afflictions and the discomfort of being ruled by them.” Yongey Mingyur Rinnphoche I hit a wall yesterday.  Exhausted from our move and the news about my father, I had a mild melt down early in the day.  I was quite [...]

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Caretaking as Lifestyle

April 23, 2010

Yesterday, I spoke about living a simple life.  I’ve been moving towards simplicity for a few years now.  Living simply seems to suit me.  I experience less stress and more freedom when living simply.  I have more time and energy for the things that are really important to me (like this blog, transformative coaching, spending [...]

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