“What if, when I meet another person, instead of being preoccupied with our individual differences or with who I remember her as being last time, I go beyond all that, I see the soul, I see the other being who is just like me? Then every moment is a fresh moment.” Ram Dass
I repeatedly fall into the trap of expecting people to be who I think they are. I react to people based on my expectations and assumptions of them. I assume you won’t change–maybe even that you can’t change. I only see an extremely limited view of you. I put you in a box and our interactions follow accordingly. There is no room in that box for something fresh and new. Every moment has the potential to become stale.
I did this to my Dad for decades and as a result, we repeated the same old distant, angry relationship for all those years. I have done this to many others, too. I have even done it to myself. Others have done it to me.
However, when I let go of my expectations, assumptions, and judgments of you–when I release you from the box–something loosens and breaks free. Possibilities open to us. I begin to see your complexity and richness. I begin to see your paradox and uniqueness. I begin to see your beauty and your soul. I see me in you. Our relationship has the potential now to expand and deepen. The box bursts open and something fresh and new emerges every moment.
I experience the fresh and new with my Dad every time I visit with him now. I experience it with others. Beauty emerges. Beauty bowls over the limits I have erected. I am astonished and grateful.
Every moment has the possibility of being fresh and new.
Would you like help in releasing your expectations, assumptions, and judgments that limit your relationships? Would you like help in finding something fresh and new in every moment with those around you? Then take advantage of a Complimentary 45-minute Discovery Session (a $120 value) that I am offering for free for a limited time. Contact me to schedule your complimentary discovery session by clicking on the Contact Carla tab.
Podcast: Play in new window | Download
