Strength in Vulnerability

by Carla Royal on June 24, 2010

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I see a vulnerability and tenderness in this damselfly.  I cannot imagine how it survives for even a day.  It seems to me that the wind, alone, would tumble her to her death at first gust.  Yet this little creature flits about with all the confidence and strength of a Goliath, and the courage and artistry of a David.

I have gone through much of my life attempting to hide my vulnerability and tenderness.  I have done this primarily by shutting down my emotions, passion, creativity, and intelligence.  I feel myself doing it right now.  I do it as a way of protecting myself.  There can be some value in this when it is used sparingly and for extreme situations, but it interferes when it becomes a way of life.

By shutting down, I do not give my gifts to the world.  I do not give my gifts to myself.  I wither a little, and then a little more.  The energy I put out is dull and lifeless at best, and destructive at worst.

I’m sad about my daddy.  I avoid feeling all of the sadness by shutting down.  Yet I know that the sadness could sweep over me in a cleansing sort of way if only I would allow it to do its work.  I have experienced this time and again, and yet I avoid it still.

There is strength in vulnerability.  There is healing in allowing the emotions to wash over me.  They will not consume me if I simply allow them to move through me.  I forget this, and the blocked emotions sit on me like thick fog smothering the mountain peak.

Today, I look to the delicate damselfly for courage.  I will find strength in embracing my vulnerability; then I will be able to offer my gifts to the world.

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  • http://www.graphixforchange.com Marianne Winters

    Thank you for this. Great reminder of the strength in vulnerablity and the motivation behind working through your fears so that you can give your gifts to the world.

  • Vivienne Whale Grace

    Oh Carla,
    I love our connection.
    I was just closing my current email to you and questioning the use of the word strong in regard to the journey with your Dad and what popped up was my favourite quote “in my vulnerability lies my strength” from Course In Miracles and so I added and “if not be gentle with yourself, still feeling I’d left something out somehow, not mentioning the importance of vulnerability I went back to my inbox and there was your heading…
    “Strength in Vulnerability”
    I so so honour your desire Carla to allow the sadness to sweep over you in a cleansing way and to encourage and support that in your self and your journeying with your Dad. You are an inspiration sweet one both with your words your photos and your beingness.

  • Patricia

    Let it rip, Carla. Sad events in our current lives allow the old unexpressed sorrows to depart as well – like lingering hobos jumping the moving train. Find time to be alone, take a scented bath, watch a wrenching movie, and just let the sorrow flow. Sending you lots of soothing and gentle rocking energy.

  • http://scintillatingspeck.wordpress.com Jen

    Carla, you are so good at noticing and describing your own ways. I am completely confident that you will open up to your sadness and it will sweep you clean, just as you said. Your ability to witness yourself and take notes and know where you need to go is amazing.

    I’ve been reading Pema Chodron’s “Taking the Leap” and between her words there and your words here, I’m reminded of the incredible potency of just being present with what is. Pema speaks of just sitting and not escaping, and what an extraordinary, transformative thing that is. You hold the keys to compassion, Carla.

  • http://motherwithheart.blogspot.com/ Victoria

    This is such an exquisite photograph. Thank you so much for your perception of the natural world through this medium of art. All of your photographs speak to me very deeply.

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