React or Respond

by Carla Royal on June 1, 2010

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Often, life is out of my control.  Things happen requiring that I simply respond.  If I don’t respond, then I’ll react.  I get to choose.  Respond or react.  Pushed by pain or pulled by impulse.

Lately, I’ve been doing more reacting than responding.  As the hands of life place me in the water, I find that I am not swimming particularly gracefully.  I’ll take a graceful stroke here, and I’ll thrash about there.   Much of the thrashing is internal.

Even though I’ve been given a life preserver, I still don’t always trust that I am safe; or maybe it’s just that I am uncomfortable.  Sometimes the water is cold!  Yes, I think that is more accurate.  I am experiencing discomfort, and I don’t like it.

Rather than relaxing into the discomfort, I try to squirm out of it.  Rather than trusting that this too will pass, I try to avoid it or rush through it.  As I attempt to avoid or rush, I often prolong the discomfort.

Silly me.

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  • http://scintillatingspeck.wordpress.com Jen

    Right there with you, Carla, alternately thrashing/stroking!

  • http://marciescudderphotography.com Marcie

    I think we all alternate between our knee-jerk reactions and thoughtful responses. And yes – we do have a choice!!

  • Joan

    Oh, my goodness, the picture’s adorable!
    Yes, me too. Family stuff, this time. I cannot seem to thrash my way loose of my overwhelming upset, and I have cried more in the past 48 hours than I have in years. Or so it feels. I know I can choose to be hurt or not be hurt, but I am not doing well with “not” being hurt. The behavior is nothing new…my one brother came East, visited with other family, and no one, but no one, not even my sister, this time, called me to let me know. Again. Last time, they did, but it was totally last minute, and I could not get there. She lives in NJ and he lives in CA, I am in PA. I am so sad about not seeing my one nephew, the one I haven’t seen since he was a baby. However, I don’t know where all this extreme sadness is coming from. Thought I was used to being cut off from most of my family. Apparently, I’m not. Finding out about it on FB was a shock and seems to have added to my distress. Yet, my nephew was commenting with my niece, and so I sent him a friend request and now, we are in touch. I am trying to balance that out, but so far, I’m still so weepy. I suppose I cannot avoid this nor can I rush through it. I unplugged yesterday, today I have to go do some things. I will do my best, that’s all I can do. Glad to read this today, it really sums it all up. Thanks for writing, Carla, it helps others, me for example!

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