Comments on: She Jumped the Tracks

By: Pushed by Pain, Pulled by Impulse | Sacred Witness

Pushed by Pain, Pulled by Impulse | Sacred Witness — Mon, 31 May 2010 13:13:49 +0000

[...] to make that I simply couldn’t make until the pain became acute. This all culminated in huge chaos for me about a decade ago and then something remarkable happened; Out of the darkest, deepest chaos, [...]

By: Self Editing | Sacred Witness

Self Editing | Sacred Witness — Tue, 25 May 2010 12:17:49 +0000

[...] tone down, try to show a certain face, etc. I still have a smidgen of fear that I’ll be misunderstood or won’t be accepted if I put forth my whole being. I suppose it’s a more than a smidgen. After all, I am full of [...]

By: Letting Go of Expectations | Sacred Witness

Letting Go of Expectations | Sacred Witness — Thu, 29 Apr 2010 12:00:38 +0000

[...] that for many years. I expected my life to go a certain way, so I suffered much as I resisted the twists and turns it has actually taken.As I’ve let go of the expectations, I find myself pleasantly surprised more [...]

By: Carla

Carla — Tue, 27 Apr 2010 23:03:42 +0000

Thank you for your kind words, Joan. I wish you all the best in your job hunt and in using boxes as they are meant to be used!

By: Joan

Joan — Mon, 26 Apr 2010 17:46:06 +0000

This is just simply so timely, I thank you, Carla, for sharing your apprehensions, which I share as I job search and thank you to everyone else for sharing what you all have. I feel so much better! I have said many times to friends, as I job search, that I am afraid that employers won’t take me seriously because they can’t figure out which box, or pigeonhole, I “belong” in. I guess I’ve been out of the box a long time, I just need to pay particular attention to not putting myself in one, or back in one, in order to please some notion of expectation! Everyone here gave me so much to think about. They are all right, Carla. Boxes are for packing household items in, not for people! You are very, very much “in” your giftedness, though!

By: Carla

Carla — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 13:55:10 +0000

James, I like your idea of doing away with the box altogether. As a friend pointed out, “the box” connotes all kinds of judgment.

And I agree with you that we limit others to the extent that we limit ourselves. Very true! Thanks for your contribution here.

I hope you and yours are well.

By: James Lavine

James Lavine — Thu, 15 Apr 2010 00:28:05 +0000

You wrote “…that I was scared folks might try to put me in a box or not accept that I’m out of the box.”

and

“Come what may, I certainly intend to be authentic. I also want to be on guard as to how I may limit others. And I will definitely open myself to being surprised.”

To the former comment I generously and respectfully offer that you might considering destroying the box altogether.

To the latter comment I say a person only really limits others to the extent and when they limit themselves. Looking more centrally at yourself in this way can be deeply and profoundly lonely in this day of upside down thinking. But eventually you will find those that allow you to be you. It does not of course mean that you have to love (or dislove) every one or vice versa but for me it’s entirely about being authentically individual without respect to how I am perceived. That is why I work to destroy the box. Best, James

By: Carla

Carla — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 20:00:21 +0000

Thank you, friends, for you kind support! I am very touched by all your responses. You have fortified me!

Ready or not, here I come, Georgia!

By: Lynda

Lynda — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 17:31:41 +0000

Dear Carla,

I, too, have been away from GA for a long time. I am, by your definition, still on the “right track” (in most repects anyway)—-if I were in your shoes and heading back to GA., I would be feeling the same apprehension you are. I think it has to do with that old saying “you can’t go home again” more than the specifics of your life experiences. Placing expectations on yourself–expecting expectations from others –is a truly scary scenario.
You, my friend, are ready and have your support group of friends—never forget how wonderful you are!

Lynda

By: barbara

barbara — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 16:00:19 +0000

Carla — thoughtful post. I like to pick out meaningful words when I am under pressure so I can repeat them in my mind to get me through. Perhaps your post words — intention, authentic, peace and awareness might do the same for you. May I add the word realization. — barbara