Comments on: Come Out, Come Out http://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=come-out-come-out Photography as Presence Tue, 07 Sep 2010 17:50:51 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Patricia Deehttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-267 Patricia Dee Sat, 06 Mar 2010 19:18:20 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-267 Hi Carla:Loved your post and all the comments. I have discovered that my power is not in relationship to others and what I do - I mistook achievement, accumulation, and social influence as power for many years - but a very internal, personal state of being. Meditation has helped me maintain and grow my personal power to experience my life as empowered by conscious choices throughout my day. Quite often now I choose to be solitary. The process of reclaiming my power has involved withdrawing from all other distractions and I know I appear to many to be hiding.I am still a bit confused by this notion of hiding/being and serving/radiating in the world so thanks for more food for thought! Hi Carla:

Loved your post and all the comments. I have discovered that my power is not in relationship to others and what I do – I mistook achievement, accumulation, and social influence as power for many years – but a very internal, personal state of being. Meditation has helped me maintain and grow my personal power to experience my life as empowered by conscious choices throughout my day. Quite often now I choose to be solitary. The process of reclaiming my power has involved withdrawing from all other distractions and I know I appear to many to be hiding.

I am still a bit confused by this notion of hiding/being and serving/radiating in the world so thanks for more food for thought!

]]> By: Carlahttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-247 Carla Fri, 05 Mar 2010 14:00:05 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-247 Thank you all for the wonderful conversation. Marian, I really resonate with what you say. I, too, am an introvert and sensitive type. It's important for me to give myself plenty of room and time for that. I like your turtle image.Pamir thanks for sharing a link to your photoblog. You have some marvelous images!Thank you all!George, I put the copyright on my images through Picasa. Very easy and automatic with a simple check mark.I look forward to hearing from you all again! Thank you all for the wonderful conversation. Marian, I really resonate with what you say. I, too, am an introvert and sensitive type. It’s important for me to give myself plenty of room and time for that. I like your turtle image.

Pamir thanks for sharing a link to your photoblog. You have some marvelous images!

Thank you all!

George, I put the copyright on my images through Picasa. Very easy and automatic with a simple check mark.

I look forward to hearing from you all again!

]]> By: Pamir | Reiki Help Bloghttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-242 Pamir | Reiki Help Blog Fri, 05 Mar 2010 00:23:02 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-242 This is one juicy synchronicity Carla. I turned 50 this year and started a photoblog, apart from my regular one for the healing work. I really like what you've done around here and will spend more time.Mine is a return to photography as purely what it is. When I was into it I was hiding in so many ways. When I came out of hiding I stopped and only documented my son. Now it feels like a good time to reengage.Currently I'm exploring earth care on the blog through a lot of B&W and some color tree photos:http://pamirsphotos.tumblr.com This is one juicy synchronicity Carla. I turned 50 this year and started a photoblog, apart from my regular one for the healing work. I really like what you’ve done around here and will spend more time.

Mine is a return to photography as purely what it is. When I was into it I was hiding in so many ways. When I came out of hiding I stopped and only documented my son. Now it feels like a good time to reengage.

Currently I’m exploring earth care on the blog through a lot of B&W and some color tree photos:

http://pamirsphotos.tumblr.com

]]> By: Dorothy Stahlneckerhttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-241 Dorothy Stahlnecker Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:18:47 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-241 Often I say nothing instead of telling how I really feel so this was a great post and the comments were inspiring as well.Dorothy from grammology grammology.com Often I say nothing instead of telling how I really feel so this was a great post and the comments were inspiring as well.

Dorothy from grammology
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]]> By: Mauriahttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Mauria Thu, 04 Mar 2010 23:07:31 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-240 such a liberating post! and it is a wonderful feeling to realize that other women have had trouble owning this quiet, reclusive center that is so important to, apparently, so many of us. thank you, carla, for opening up this discussion, this sharing. such a liberating post! and it is a wonderful feeling to realize that other women have had trouble owning this quiet, reclusive center that is so important to, apparently, so many of us. thank you, carla, for opening up this discussion, this sharing.

]]> By: Karenhttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-239 Karen Thu, 04 Mar 2010 22:50:03 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-239 Yes, this post resonates with me as well. I too have been in hiding all my life. Sometimes because I couldn't trust those around me and other times because I was,like Marion, very sensitive and an artist/poet with a very deep and serious center. So to counter that I have lived as the cheerful yet daft one - always safe - but oh so shallow unless you managed to draw me out and then I pushed you away with my intense enthusiasm. And was then labeled smartypants.Balance? Where is balance? I'm 54 soon and I have apparently burned bridges with old friends and am alienating others by wanting to let go of the old masks. So - I think the next few years will be an interesting challenge! Birth or rebirth are never painless are they.... and why is it selfishly arrogant to need authenticity? Yes, this post resonates with me as well. I too have been in hiding all my life. Sometimes because I couldn’t trust those around me and other times because I was,like Marion, very sensitive and an artist/poet with a very deep and serious center. So to counter that I have lived as the cheerful yet daft one – always safe – but oh so shallow unless you managed to draw me out and then I pushed you away with my intense enthusiasm. And was then labeled smartypants.

Balance? Where is balance? I’m 54 soon and I have apparently burned bridges with old friends and am alienating others by wanting to let go of the old masks. So – I think the next few years will be an interesting challenge! Birth or rebirth are never painless are they…. and why is it selfishly arrogant to need authenticity?

]]> By: george banghttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-236 george bang Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:41:42 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-236 how do you get your copyright to appear on the photo like that? how do you get your copyright to appear on the photo like that?

]]> By: june calenderhttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-234 june calender Thu, 04 Mar 2010 16:02:21 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-234 In first grade I became teacher's pet and made sure I always answered correctly and acted politely. It was a very small school so my position moved with me to each grade. I was the competent and confident one, this persona hid a very painful shyness so that friends I could not be openly friendly toward thought I was snobbish. However, the persona worked so well that I continued using it throughout life.At 72 it is a part of who I am but in the last several years I have found that the shy person who was afraid of being discovered as not so brilliant, not so competent, stopped worrying about it and began to admit mistakes [previously I covered them up], began to admit truer feelings. Finally I actually have come to feel the confidence that others thought I had before. The stomach flutters when I knew I would have to speak are gone. Still I stay awake thinking of what I could have said better, I suppose that prepares me for the next time I have to extemporize. But now if I sounded a little unprepared or dumb or downright wrong, I know it will be okay because I don't have to please all those people anymore even though I wish I could please all of them and never make a mistake. Thanks for raising the topic and for your always wonderful photographs. In first grade I became teacher’s pet and made sure I always answered correctly and acted politely. It was a very small school so my position moved with me to each grade. I was the competent and confident one, this persona hid a very painful shyness so that friends I could not be openly friendly toward thought I was snobbish. However, the persona worked so well that I continued using it throughout life.

At 72 it is a part of who I am but in the last several years I have found that the shy person who was afraid of being discovered as not so brilliant, not so competent, stopped worrying about it and began to admit mistakes [previously I covered them up], began to admit truer feelings. Finally I actually have come to feel the confidence that others thought I had before. The stomach flutters when I knew I would have to speak are gone. Still I stay awake thinking of what I could have said better, I suppose that prepares me for the next time I have to extemporize. But now if I sounded a little unprepared or dumb or downright wrong, I know it will be okay because I don’t have to please all those people anymore even though I wish I could please all of them and never make a mistake. Thanks for raising the topic and for your always wonderful photographs.

]]> By: Vivienne Whale Gracehttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-233 Vivienne Whale Grace Thu, 04 Mar 2010 15:54:39 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-233 Such courage Carla. I love reading the comments by the 70+ year old women. I just turned 50 on the last day of last year and I found it traumatic at first i didn't even want to celebrate. It felt the popular culture didn't understand what this meant. As I ease into it and work on the committment I made to me when I turned 50 "not to manage anyone's feelings but my own" I am loving life at 50 and I look forward to celebrating 100. Such courage Carla.
I love reading the comments by the 70+ year old women. I just turned 50 on the last day of last year and I found it traumatic at first i didn’t even want to celebrate. It felt the popular culture didn’t understand what this meant. As I ease into it and work on the committment I made to me when I turned 50 “not to manage anyone’s feelings but my own” I am loving life at 50 and I look forward to celebrating 100.

]]> By: Marian Van Eyk McCainhttp://carlaroyal.com/2010/03/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-232 Marian Van Eyk McCain Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:34:38 +0000 http://carlaroyal.com/?p=1398#comment-232 For me, hiding and powerfulness are not necessarily in opposition to each other. I feel as though, at 73, I am now fully in my power. But I do need to hide, nonetheless. And that, for me, is just fine. As an 'HSP' (a 'highly sensitive person') and an introvert, I need to hide from too much noise and chatter, from empty socializing, from much of the clamor and mindlessness of the mainstream culture and the demands of needy people. I don't always answer the phone - sometimes it's great to hide behind voicemail. My quiet, peaceful, TV-free home is my refuge. From there, I look out at the world with wide, interested eyes (just like that kitty!)and decide what I want to engage with and what I don't. Like a turtle, I choose when to stay in and when to come out. This feels very powerful for me - the ability to choose without ever feeling ashamed of my choices. For me, hiding and powerfulness are not necessarily in opposition to each other.
I feel as though, at 73, I am now fully in my power. But I do need to hide, nonetheless. And that, for me, is just fine. As an ‘HSP’ (a ‘highly sensitive person’) and an introvert, I need to hide from too much noise and chatter, from empty socializing, from much of the clamor and mindlessness of the mainstream culture and the demands of needy people. I don’t always answer the phone – sometimes it’s great to hide behind voicemail.
My quiet, peaceful, TV-free home is my refuge. From there, I look out at the world with wide, interested eyes (just like that kitty!)and decide what I want to engage with and what I don’t. Like a turtle, I choose when to stay in and when to come out. This feels very powerful for me – the ability to choose without ever feeling ashamed of my choices.

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